Why Rewards Scare the Bejeezus Out Of Me…

I’ve got a thing at the moment about our society’s mentality for rewards. How we are getting to the point with our children both in the home and at school that they “should” behave to get rewards. And I mean tangible rewards – whether it’s points, stickers, time on the X-box, prizes, toys and so…

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3 Simple Lessons We Teach Our Kids…But We Sometimes Forget Ourselves!

We’ve all heard the old expression, “Do as I say, not as I do.” Yet we now know that this is completely backwards. Our children are in a constant state of observation – keenly watching how we behave to learn the do’s and don’ts of being a human being. The truth is that in many…

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5 Reasons I’m Proud To Be A “Bad Mom”…

Last weekend I went to see the new comedy, Bad Moms with a couple of friends. It was absolutely hilarious, and totally rude (in a great way!). At the same time, the film also has surprisingly insightful, powerful messages around the importance of community, the value of having great “mum” friends, and the challenges we…

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Dealing With Disappointments – How To Help Your Kids Get Through

Disappointment is a complex emotion, especially for little people. In fact, a lot of children struggle to even identify disappointment and will often skip it for more intense feelings including anger, blame, and even deep sadness. To add to the complexities, adults can inadvertently minimise the feeling of being disappointed – responding with comments like,…

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How To Diagnose the REAL Reason Your Child Lacks Motivation – And What To Do About It!

We know that being a parent requires us to play a gazillion different roles. We are cooks, cleaners, tutors, and chauffeurs. We are counsellors, mentors, and police officers. We are cheerleaders, advocates, and personal assistants. I could go on and on and on….. And we are also doctors. We deal with physical ailments– I specialise…

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Do You Believe In Fairies?

One of the most beautiful parts of childhood is our ability to believe in all sorts of stuff. From fairies to Santa Claus. From wise words from our favourite teachers to life lessons from our most beloved aunt. What we choose to believe in at any given moment has an enormous impact on how we…

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The Moment I Started To Know Myself

I was kind of picked on in primary school. Not horrifically bullied, or anything. Yet for about three years, I was riding the friendship yo-yo. One day I was “in”, the next, I was totally out. I was part of the club, or I was told I didn’t meet membership requirements. As a result of…

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What I’m Teaching My Kids About Learning

I do love to teach people stuff. I remember when I was in year two and I was learning about magic squares. You know, those grids with missing numbers and you have to figure out the sums and they have make sense going across, up and down, and diagonally. I was in total heaven. They…

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Why Intentions and Outcomes Trump Being Right Every Time

I recently I watched my husband and daughter have a disagreement. It wasn’t over anything major, but it caused a lot of upset. She was preparing for a speech, and my husband was giving her feedback. Let’s just say, it was not very well received. And as I watched my daughter, it was like looking…

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Sorry? I didn’t catch that…

I have always been told that I am a good listener. Friends, family, acquaintances, and perfect strangers confide in me, even without encouragement on my part. I seem to have a natural ability to create a space where people feel comfortable in bearing their souls and sharing their thoughts. And I have never stopped seeing…

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